A crack at asking a woman out on a date.

I have only asked one woman out on a date. I am 43 years old. This woman was my ex-wife. She always used laugh at how I was waving my arms around when I was asking her out she thought it was "cute." I wonder what she thinks about it now.

You would think I would learn to stay away from the whole thing but no I am stupid. Yes I am. I envision me at some point asking a woman in one of my meetings out for coffee. That is it nothing more. I am no good at nor want to be good at being a "womanizer?" Kinda sounds like a machine.

Like I said I have only asked one woman out in my life. In fact, it is always up to the woman to make the "move" on me. I have only been with three women where I haven't exchanged sex for cash. In all three cases these women initiated sex. I don't think I can do that. I do not want to try to get a woman to have sex with me when she does not really want to have sex with me. This of course flies in the face of what sometimes happened in the first nine years of my 12 year marriage. Yes, I was a pig in my marriage, a real asshole. I really don't want to be a pig and did not want to be one then but I was. I hope I am growing up.

I suspect I will end up asking in much the same way as I did with my ex-wife. Here is how it will go. I have been wanting to ask you something however I am really nervous. I get real nervous around beautiful women. You are beautiful and I am nervous. Anyway would you want to go for coffee some time?

Hey that is honest and admitting to being nervous kinda kills the power of being nervous. Of course if she says yes, then I just completed the absolute most easiest part of the relationship. The rest is up hill from there. However the rewards are wonderful. After climbing the hill abit, if you have done the climb the views and vistas are absolutely spectacular,. . . I hear.